I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child. “Don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.
At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.
“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong. I realized this later on tonight.
The trouble was that although the girl and persuaded to climb the escalator, no one told Continue reading
Can today’s children to empathize, to respond emotionally to the experience of the other? Unfortunately, the corrosive impact of our television has done its job: the children hard to get up mentally in the place of another person, experiencing some feelings. Scenes of violence led to the fact that children were not sensitive to the pain of another person.
Although children usually stronger empathize than adults, but it is more common in pre-school, early age. Adult touches like 2-3 year old toddlers can chorus to cry because one of them “Bobo”, the surprising insensitivity of 7-year-old boys tormenting a cat with kittens, and affects the cruelty of girls 15 years of age, to death pocketing his classmate. But, after all, they are not born, they have no aggression at age one! Where’s it come from? Yes, I understand that no mother, no father teaches the child to do evil, bad things. But good teaching is not many. At preschool age want parents to understand clearly – aggression often manifests as protection, due to emotional instability. The child at this age is still difficult to understand our complicated adult world of human Continue reading
Employees of supermarkets often catch “the little thief”, taking a chocolate bar from the shelf or something more expensive. Theft – it’s not just pity the innocent, the offence leading to certain consequences. At the same time for a misdemeanor child, there are psychological problems and possible gaps in family education.
«Leider” talked about stealing from a child psychologist Olga Sergeeva and the inspector on Affairs of minors, the police officer Oksana Makarova.
Who and why is stealing
Oksana Makarova, inspector PD: “can’t say that it’s always the children from disadvantaged families, as some people think. Often called “safe” something is missing, actually. Recently we had, for example, the happy boy, studying in high school. Stolen from a sporting goods store special bandages for Boxing, carried in the pocket, the guard caught him at the exit. Here who does not suffice, I think. Someone emotions, adrenaline, someone really very useful, but mom said not buy.
Basically, these are isolated episodes. But, of course, there are those who regularly trades theft, this is another case. We have a teenager on the account, not for the first time comes – the radio of the cars pulls, wheels takes. Can’t say that the family is dysfunctional, but brings up his mother Continue reading