This article focuses on the moments of raising a child with down syndrome. Just want to note that I write only my own experience. Don’t know how many different opinions there are on this. A unified system of education no — that’s why so many discrepancies. Blame the system and to agree with another may not, so just present the facts.
Let me begin with the first days. I learned about the diagnosis of her son back to the family table (the phenotype) when I didn’t want to give it up. On — worse. None of my relatives wanted me to come. Nobody. In my family there is a worship study, and «perfect man», so that the defective child absolutely did not fit. Remember those days not very desirable. Whatever you say — I put a huge bolt on all the exhortations of those who was supposed to support me. It was hard, sad and painful. Saved me the realization that I love my child and would never be able to live with the fact that she dumped him. Today we all made it up, because the family — the most important thing in life.
The first thing I want to highlight: the biggest mistake that can be avoided by parents of children with disabilities — lock it up at home. About other diagnoses not speak, but I assure you — now opportunities for social adaptation so wide that almost all children Continue reading
Mama — Baba Yaga
— Don’t eat, the doctor will come and give you a shot!
— Please hurry home, and then comes the bogeyman and drag you with me!
— You will not obey a police officer will pick you up!
— Don’t run away, get lost, and there was Baba-Yaga!
And why not to scare? He has something to fear. Otherwise, generally not to cope! We, when we were little, my mom listened to and feared.
— The time to sleep! March to their rooms! Only go for a minute to kiss grandma and dad. Nothing to ramble and whine, it’s time to sleep. I told you! Yes, and at night don’t need to jump, to run, to cry, to include light, call grandma, you’re big kids, remember what I said!
Get acquainted with the following character — mommy — Baba-Yaga.
This mom is trying to achieve the obedience of a child, threatening his requirements, ensuring obedience with anger and annoyance. If the little man does things differently then most often should be the punishment, including physical.
Baba Yaga rudely and peremptorily talking to children, only she knows what to do, so she points out, charge, head, diminishes a sense of their dignity, will not tolerate independence of children. She is easily Continue reading
I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child. “Don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.
At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.
“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong. I realized this later on tonight.
The trouble was that although the girl and persuaded to climb the escalator, no one told Continue reading