This article focuses on the moments of raising a child with down syndrome. Just want to note that I write only my own experience. Don’t know how many different opinions there are on this. A unified system of education no — that’s why so many discrepancies. Blame the system and to agree with another may not, so just present the facts.
Let me begin with the first days. I learned about the diagnosis of her son back to the family table (the phenotype) when I didn’t want to give it up. On — worse. None of my relatives wanted me to come. Nobody. In my family there is a worship study, and «perfect man», so that the defective child absolutely did not fit. Remember those days not very desirable. Whatever you say — I put a huge bolt on all the exhortations of those who was supposed to support me. It was hard, sad and painful. Saved me the realization that I love my child and would never be able to live with the fact that she dumped him. Today we all made it up, because the family — the most important thing in life.
The first thing I want to highlight: the biggest mistake that can be avoided by parents of children with disabilities — lock it up at home. About other diagnoses not speak, but I assure you — now opportunities for social adaptation so wide that almost all children Continue reading
Mama — Baba Yaga
— Don’t eat, the doctor will come and give you a shot!
— Please hurry home, and then comes the bogeyman and drag you with me!
— You will not obey a police officer will pick you up!
— Don’t run away, get lost, and there was Baba-Yaga!
And why not to scare? He has something to fear. Otherwise, generally not to cope! We, when we were little, my mom listened to and feared.
— The time to sleep! March to their rooms! Only go for a minute to kiss grandma and dad. Nothing to ramble and whine, it’s time to sleep. I told you! Yes, and at night don’t need to jump, to run, to cry, to include light, call grandma, you’re big kids, remember what I said!
Get acquainted with the following character — mommy — Baba-Yaga.
This mom is trying to achieve the obedience of a child, threatening his requirements, ensuring obedience with anger and annoyance. If the little man does things differently then most often should be the punishment, including physical.
Baba Yaga rudely and peremptorily talking to children, only she knows what to do, so she points out, charge, head, diminishes a sense of their dignity, will not tolerate independence of children. She is easily Continue reading
Beloved children. All they are allowed. All they are allowed. Sweets? Please. The cartoons? To health. Don’t want to walk? Well, okay. Toy assemble forces there? Nothing, mother collect. No refusal, no ban. Whence then comes a spoiled child? And how he will show his character, so hold on all: and grandmothers, and grandfathers, and mothers with fathers. And how to return back the little angel as he at first seemed, no one knows. Because the kid knows how to manipulate adults. If you do not cry, tears, if not tears, tantrums. What to do about that?
So little Karina. Cute 6-year-old girl. The only baby in the family. Favorite all. And because much spoiled. Karina in subjection to all the relatives. If one is trying to blame the girl, the other will certainly fit to stand up in its defense. If someone from adults and believes that the extra time would deny another adult certainly seem that this is too strict. So Karina gets what she wants, and at the same moment, when she asks about it.
Most of all I love the baby grandmother. They got over two. And each vying tries to please his beloved granddaughter. But why not appreciate Marinochka their efforts. Slightly raises a cry and grandmothers have already learned how to swear. Even Continue reading