Women’s “Indian Kingdom”
Can today’s children to empathize, to respond emotionally to the experience of the other? Unfortunately, the corrosive impact of our television has done its job: the children hard to get up mentally in the place of another person, experiencing some feelings. Scenes of violence led to the fact that children were not sensitive to the pain of another person.
Although children usually stronger empathize than adults, but it is more common in pre-school, early age. Adult touches like 2-3 year old toddlers can chorus to cry because one of them “Bobo”, the surprising insensitivity of 7-year-old boys tormenting a cat with kittens, and affects the cruelty of girls 15 years of age, to death pocketing his classmate. But, after all, they are not born, they have no aggression at age one! Where’s it come from? Yes, I understand that no mother, no father teaches the child to do evil, bad things. But good teaching is not many. At preschool age want parents to understand clearly – aggression often manifests as protection, due to emotional instability. The child at this age is still difficult to understand our complicated adult world of human relations, to learn the language of feelings. They still don’t always know how to cheat and dissemble. A lot of not knowing and not being able, the child is violating older rules, norms and behaving inappropriately. It just does not understand that he is showing aggression towards others. Incidentally, the word “aggression” is translated from Latin as “attack, attack”.
In our technically advanced time of adults lack the emotional understanding, to say nothing about children. But the worst thing is that we adults sometimes don’t know how to overcome the growing child hostility and cruelty. Revenge, malice, anger, envy – these forms of aggression are destroying our society. And if we’re all going to say that someone else should raise their children empathy, compassion, then perhaps this is not quite correct. Each of us – let’s be honest to talk about it – sometimes seizures and wrath, and anger, and irritability, and we are at this point not an example to follow. What can you do? To carry such cargo cannot happen, but! Need to admit their mistakes, explain their mistake and to learn themselves and to teach children ways to manage their own behavior, namely how to soothe how to get rid of anger, irritability, how to resolve without violence, without aggression arising conflict situations. We must learn to see the emotional state of another, and teach it to their children, and to do it not in words but in deeds. Because we are offended when we were nasty, we convicted in reactionsthe other, and they can sympathize with another, to understand his condition, do we always tactful and polite? From early childhood it is necessary to disclose to the children, what is “evil” and what is “good”. Tell your child a story about two wizards, one good became evil because he’s possessed by dragons, which name is “wrath, anger and resentment”. Let him figure out how to free the wizard from the “drakosha” (maybe to feed a magic Apple, or do good deeds?) Let the child feel that it is not immediately possible to break free from the clutches of the dragon, that the wizard was so angry, dissatisfied, he causes trouble and pain to others. And if the child will be able to emotionally experience the drama of this evil wizard, because it’s not easy to live. It is in the minutes of its aggression will hear your call, “Oh! Got into a dragon?!” He will already know what it is. Such tales can teach the child to relieve stress: sing a song, smile, tear up the sheet of paper on which is drawn a toothy dragon… So let your help a child to “save” the evil wizard, turning it in good and then it will be easier in moments of aggression to cope with their emotions.
Play with your child in the game “good – bad” (you call the act, and the child sees it: for example, tore the book is bad, helped his younger brother get dressed.).
Read the child the poem “Kindness” (R. Seth)
Yesterday I decided to be kind,
All to respect and love everybody.
I gave Svetka ball,
Gave and Pete ball.
Kolya gave the monkey
Bear, rabbit and dogs,
Hat, mittens and a wardrobe
I was punished!
For what has been punished and should have done adults – let your child answer these questions, and in General, what it is “kindness”?
To make peace we need.
I’m not offended –
Only hare held,
Only with the hare ran away,
And said, “No way!”
Give her a rabbit, apologize,
Give her a ball,
And say: “let’s Play!”
Ask: “do you argue with your friends? And offended? Is it possible without quarrels to do? And I feel that fight?
Remember the old woman Shapoklyak from the movie: “Who helps people, lose time in vain! Good works can not be glorified!”
What do you think? Why old woman and nobody wanted to be friends? Of course, she’s hurt, prednicare, doing all sorts of mischief. Would you like to be the old woman Shapoklyak? Why not?
These are just some tips on how to teach a child compassion, empathy, how to learn to understand each other’s feelings. In any suitable situation, try to note the positive and negative sides and their actions, and the actions of the heroes books, fairy tales, cartoons. Do not think that the baby will have less respect: not at all, it only takes you up into his eyes. After all, we are all human, and people are not without flaws. Most importantly, learn to recognize them, to see and fix. Then and aggression in our society will be less.
I want to also note that aggressive behavior is influenced by and punishment, usually parents are either too strict or liberal, indulgent to his child. But here’s the paradox: aggressive children equally often and too strict and too lenient parents. So there must be a happy medium. Let’s remember that every child is someone’s child, and we are all together responsible for the rising generation. From all of us depends on each one drip at a time, who will grow this little man.
Oh, and finally, again a poem: “Love all life” N. Fomenkova. Who knows, maybe today the child will be sorry ant, but tomorrow will not raise a hand against the man. So you want to believe it!
Birds, butterflies, frogs,
Insects, small animals…
All used to live in the wild –
Very bad for them in captivity!
Can’t have them in jars to plant
They need to crawl, sing, fly
And swim in the warm Vodice.
To press, to trample them no good!