How to teach a child to potty
“The child is already a year old, and he still can’t walk to the potty”, — Kolko throws an experienced neighbor or loving mother-in-law. And you zealously undertake to correct this omission. The kid in confusion, he protests and “fun” of you: we need only to lift it from the pot and put on clean clothes — he defecates you “out of spite”. Mom in hysterics, anger and bewilderment: why is he doing this? The answer is very simple: until a certain age by psychological and physiological characteristics of the organism, the kids don’t feel the need to go to the toilet. Anal muscles and the urogenital system are not yet ready to hold feces. And the pants-wetting does not cause the baby any discomfort.
It often happens that the mother is making a hell of effort ahead of time, and it makes no sense: at an early age of the child it is impossible to housebreak. And when is the right time for this, the tormented mother gives up and leaves every attempt.
When to begin this difficult process of accustoming to potty or the toilet and how to make it the most efficient and quiet? Here are guidelines and tips that will help you to understand.
When to teach a child to potty?
Do not rush things. Modern pediatricians recommend to teach a child to potty no earlier than 18 months. If the friend brags that in 10 months, her daughter is already asking to be written, it only means that she has learned to catch and nail the child at the right time. And this does not mean that the girl will have to ask before the others. As a rule, at the age of two to three years bladder the child is developing sufficiently so that the kid could control urination and to walk independently to the toilet. But for many children it happens later, which is also an absolute norm.
To start going to the toilet should be the desire of the child and not yours. Gently remind him about this need, actively encourage, but do not impose and do not make unreservedly to obey you. While the kid himself will not understand and do not want this,you will not be able to force him. By using violence and perseverance, you will only aggravate the situation, causing a lot of problems both physiological and psychological.
Praise the baby for any results, but in any case, do not scold for failure! Constant criticism will lead to the fact that the child have a negative Association with natural needs. Stick to the middle: to praise the child also cannot! Children are very quick to see that the toilet is actually very important to you, and use it for manipulation. Behave smoothly, quietly, deliberately.
It’s important to teach a child to hygiene: to drain, to drain the water off, wash hands after using the toilet. All procedures should be carried out every time, consistently, without exception.
In the first phase accustom the child to the toilet you have to help and support him. And later parents should gradually depart on the second plan. Over time, you will need to control your child, but don’t forget to check whether there was any difficulties.
Keep in mind that girls develop faster than boys. And skill to control the bladder is no exception.
Please note that constipation can cause categorical refusal of the pot just because he experienced pain and discomfort when attempting a bowel movement. So at the same time watch out for the regularity of the chair of the crumbs.
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Be patient, be kind and gentle and don’t pay too much attention, never focus on it. But if due to your wrong actions previously the problem has already occurred, and did not mention the pot and not negotiate the issue. Start with a clean sheet.
How to choose a pot for your child
Try to accustom the child to the toilet. There is a special child seats — bright, beautiful and very comfortable. But if the baby resists (often children, for example, are afraid of the stock hole will come out a monster or something like that), start with the pot.
Pot is good for the fact that it can always take with you anywhere: in the street, to visit, to rest. Moreover, many children suffer from so-called psychological constipation when to go for the big one in another unusual situation for them is impossible. Native pot will help in this situation.
How to choose a pot for a child to become a paralegal and not the culprit of failure? There is no single ‘ correct recommendations because all babies are different and each case needs an individual approach. But experts recommend be guided primarily by practicality: the pot should be warm (metal not suitable for this), comfortable Seating (it’s better to choose a potty-chair, but it is inconvenient to carry for a) made of environmental material (that is non-toxic and does not cause fears and anxieties from owner. And just with the last can be difficult.
There are cases, when a child, for some reason fearing the pot in the first use, refuses further attempts to get used to the pot. It was observed that this reaction mainly cause musical pots. Not recommended this pot as the first accessory for the reason that the child must clearly understand its purpose from the beginning: the pot is suitable for repair purposes, but not for games. So show-off, dear friends, is not always appropriate.
However, some parents share their experience: the pots of bells and whistles (music, glowing lights and built-in elements for the game) stimulate kids to use and for its intended purpose. It should be recognized however, that the opposite effect is observed much more frequently: the child understands that it is necessary to fill a pot of something for the inclusion of additional functions, and begins to experiment, continuing to do his business in his pants.
So here it is necessary to think carefully and for a start, perhaps, still to do the usual simple easy pot. This will not prevent in any case, and when baby will get used to it and will regularly use it, as a reward for the work and efforts it is possible to give him and multifunctional model.
Don’t listen to anyone but your heart and baby. Give your child to act independently, consider his needs and desires. After going to the toilet — the same inevitable hang of how to crawl, keep the object in his hand, to walk or to talk. And sooner or later, but all the kids learn it.
Actually to teach a child to potty or the toilet — not so difficult as it seems. The main thing to behave properly and not to spoil anything. From your actions depends on how smoothly and painlessly for all this process will take place. So do not go too far and do not run ahead of the cart. All in good time!