The Influence of adults on the formation of self-esteem of the child
In childhood, self-concept is still not fully developed, poorly structured, poorly protected and easily identifiable influences. Because the circle of friends in childhood is limited mainly by the family, the family is the first and most important factor influencing the formation of self-concept, and self-esteem in particular. In childhood the circle is extremely narrowed. The influence of parents on the child at this age leads to the fact that their installation be the decisive factor in the formation of his self-concept.
Most psychologists argue that the first five years of life are the period when laid the basic Foundation of personality and self-concept of the person. The first human relationship that the child learns in the family, appear to him the prototype for all future relationships with other people.
It is important that family members are treated a child as a decent substance capable of certain kinds of activity, which in turn generates a sense of self-importance. Every activity has a purpose. The ability to achieve it gives a sense of confidence in their abilities. For students that mastery learning for teachers — the possession of their subject and the ability to elicit from students the right level of knowledge. Success in this gives the teacher and student awareness of one’s own competence, and it is a very important factor positive self-concept.
Also the very important feedback from significant others.
Experience acceptance by others, manifested in the love, respect, affection, protection. To survive and to realize this, the child must perceive the face, gestures, verbal statements, and other signs, from significant others, especially parents. Most psychologists argue that the standards set by parents, teachers, social environment is vital for the development of self-concept of the child. If other people adopt, approve and accept the child, he enjoys their respect (i.e., receives positive reinforcement and is aware of it), then it is likely that developing a positive self-concept. If others – parents, peers, teachers reject the child or young person, expose to ridicule, belittle, criticize more than encouraging, he will develop a negative self-concept.
Parents, teachers, peers provide the child the necessary feedback, convincing him that he needed that he likes that he is able to succeed in a particular case, and that all he has importance in their eyes. This applies to all aspects of life of the child: physical development, social skills, academic achievement, emotional tone, etc.
And family and school equally contribute to the development of the child both positive and negative ideas about themselves. As a result of joint activity and communication, parents, siblings, teachers and peers can inspire children as something that its very existence is a great value for others and what a creature it is useless and worthless. The content of self-concept (in the narrower sense of the word — self-assessment), according to psychologists, is one of the most important outcomes of education and training, i.e., what is the content and forms of socialization of the child.
We quite often difficult to understand the child only because he is perceived by us is extremely one-sided. Too many unnecessary conflicts between adults and children occurs as a result of the inability to penetrate into the inner world of the child. Not rarely have to deal with adults who intentionally harm their children, being firmly convinced that they want their good.
Parents of children with high “self-assessments”, constantly take a sincere interest in the welfare of a child, the warmth and caring of him. They are less forgiving, exclude permissiveness, based on high standards of behaviour and reinforce their respective rules. In practice, education and more use of encouragement than punishment. Clearly set boundaries to your child that allows the use of parents less harsh forms of punishment. The existence of constraints, provides children with the social world in which he can prove himself and succeed.
Conversely, parents of children with low “self-assessments”, as a rule, apply stiff penalties, require the unconditional subordination of the child to parents, combined with elements of permissiveness. They often are, cold, indifferent, uncommunicative relationship with children. Inconsistent reactions of the parents, the child perceives as a confirmation of rejection, hostility and rejection from his parents.
If in early childhood a critical role in the development of self-concept played by parents, later in this process included the school, and its impact becomes very significant. If a child came to school with already formed a negative view of themselves, teachers can reinforce it, but they can and the child to form a more positive Outlook on yourself and on your abilities. As indicated by many authors, positive self-concept is defined by three factors: a firm belief in imponerande other people, confidence in the ability to a particular type of activity and sense of self-importance.