The Greed of a child: what to do, how to wean?
  Already in early childhood, the child develops the self, the image of the self. Interacting with objects, he not only learns their properties, but also their own abilities. The…

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What to do man, if ex-wife does not communicate with the child?
  News Of Minsk. When the wife of Andrei Minevich left him, he was very worried and believed that she would change her mind. In vain. Tatiana just slammed the…

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The Paradoxes of Japanese education Motherhood – pregnancy, childbirth, nutrition, education

 

Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in Russia. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store are no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.

The basis of education in Japanese society is a tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. Such permissiveness in childhood, adult Japanese citizens are law-abiding and ability to live by the interests of the team and company.

What Russians consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight on holiday, journey on forbidding signal of a traffic light, – it is impossible for Japanese. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood, is the basis of education.

Amazing result? Actually, the education of the individual in Japanese society is constructed so that this result is a natural consequence of all stages of education, which is a child from birth Continue reading

4 – B – class – tips for parents

Memo No. 1 for parents

“Preventing childhood aggression”

1. Try to keep in the family atmosphere of openness and trust.

2. Do not let your child unfulfilled promises, not inspire his soul with unrealistic expectations.

3. Do not put your child any kind had no conditions.

4. Be tactful in the manifestation of the impact on the child.

5. Don’t punish your child for something that you can do yourself.

7. Do not modify its requirements in relation to the child in favor of anything.

8. Do not blackmail the child their relationships with each other.

9. Don’t be afraid to share with the child about their feelings and weaknesses.

10. Do not put your relationship with your own child dependent on his academic success.

11. Remember that your child is clothed! Use it so that it was implemented in full.

Memo No. 2 for parents

“How to deal with an aggressive child?”

1. Ban, and even more “op” will only exacerbate the problem.

2. The sanction must comply with the act.

3. Do not allow yourself outbursts of aggression in the presence of a child, do not use harsh parenting techniques.

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Raising boys, raising girls. The mysteries of parenting

 

Try to understand, at least in the General laws of development. In front of the boys face the critical challenge of development, become a man. The Central role of the father to lasting feelings of masculinity, the boy cannot be overemphasized. The boy in the process of personal growth, you must first be separated from the mother and become his own person. Identification with the father has a very big help. A sense of difference from the mother occurs when there is a man with whom the boy can be identified. A sense of similarity with a man, “similar to them”, further enhances the sense of masculinity (“Time dad survived and saved myself without being fused with the mother, and I have a chance to be different, not like a woman!”). Nude image of boy becomes more stable.

Having established a strong sense of masculinity, taking the male role, the boy began to search for another type of relationship with mother. In his view the father gets more and more features beloved ideal. The boy wants to be like his father in everything! This means that the relationship with his mother he should be similar to those that exist in the father! Instead of being the child of his mother in dependent relations, as it was before, now the boy wants to be more manly in a relationship with her. He wants Continue reading